Well here it goes: my fiance was married to someone who was fifteen or sixteen when he was ninteen. He got convicted with a 261.5 which isnt even a registerable offense becuz the county decided thy were too lazy to pull up his marriage certificate. So once a year he has to go to JT to register, take a pic and fingerprint. Everything a 290 wld, but he isnt on meagans law. Anywho his crazy ex wife and new husband have been causing us problems since my daughter started going to the same school as her kids. They even went as far as yelling out loud that he is a child rapist and sex offender at Oasis elementary school's dance that i asxed my fiance and my father to take my daughter to for me. That caused someone to call the cops on my fiance. My fiance didnt want to be harassed not only from other parents but the cops too. Cuz knowing the cops thy wldnt have even listened to him, parents were furious. But whts even worse is a parent went up to my father and said he had to leave becuz he was with my fiance. My dad honestly thought it was a school official so he left, he was pretty hurt. The school has told me and my fiance since day one that there is NO reason my fiance cant be there. But there is also not a thing they can do about them being at the school either. I kept my daughter out of school on fri becuz i dont know what these parents told thier kids and how thier gonna treat her. What should i do? How can i stop this? And how can i show the community of 29 palms that they are liars? I want them to just leave us alone! 

Oh ya forgot to say He Got In Trouble For Having A Sexual Relationship With His Own WIFE!!! Which btw the county is in the process of fixing and removing from his record. Ya he got married in Riverside county. And if anyone knows of a good Criminal lawyer that will help light a fire under the D.A. (kindly deleted) that will sue san bernardino county but will get paid after thy win let me know thnxs. 

Oh my goodness.....we have old people on here....PARAGRAPHS!!!!

*goes to get glasses* 

Oasis elementary school

Wait...what? 

Who is harassing whom now? 

Have you thought of filing a restraining order? That should be step one. 

Im not gonna say any names. I dont think i can do that on here. And ya i have thought of a restraining order on his ex wife and her new husband but since when does that do anything in california? 

To kelljoy: my fiances ex wife and her new husband have been harrassing me, my fiance, and my daughter at Oasis since she strted this year. Two of her kids go to the same school and one of thm is in kindergarten jus like my daughter. I am going to have to ask a friend of mine to go to school all day on monday and sit with her all day cuz i dont know wht other children are going to say or do to her. Isnt that sad? That I even have to do that? 

After this last week of school, I would move away from the area his ex lives in so this won't be an issue for your daughter. You can't make people be quiet unfortunately.

IDK to much about registered sex offenders, but I do know they aren't allowed within a ceratin amount of distance to a school, so IDK how your fiance is allowed at the school to begin with.

I can see how other parents are judging, if someone was telling me a registered sex offender was at my childs school, I would be concerned as well. Especially because noone knows what the real scenario is. People dont want to hear, oh he married a 16yr old and blah blah blah....all's they hear is registered sex offender at school.

I'd move somewhere else and have a fresh start once this is all taken care of. 

Im not gonna say any names. I dont think i can do that on here.

No, no...don't do that.

Who is the supposed sex offender? The OP's fiance with the ex-wife? And yeah...if they are that...why would they be allowed in the school?

Am I missing something?

What kind of harassment are you receiving? 

Who is the supposed sex offender? The OP's fiance with the ex-wife?

From what I understand, the OP's fiance is the supposed sex offender because his ex-wife was 15-16 when they were married.

After this last week of school, I would move away from the area his ex lives in so this won't be an issue for your daughter.

Sadly, I agree. It sucks it has to be this way, but you have to do what's best for your daughter. 

Im not gonna say any names. I dont think i can do that on here.


No names, please. :) 

If it's really that bad, why not think about moving out of 29 Palms? And the restraining order would be a good idea. And if he is going to the court and filing and getting fingerprints done, wouldn't that make him a "sex offender"...at least it does till the courts can get their shi* straight. 

Have you not talked to the school officials about being harassed? 

I can assure you that more people will be asking about it now at the school that you have told us. There are A LOT of local peeps that read this site even though they don't always post. 

I'm still concerned about why a registered sex offender, and he is that whether he should be or not, is on school grounds????

No offense, but I don't believe anyone when they say, oh he was 19 and she was 16 blah blah blah, the courts messed up blah blah blah.....I like to see proof of that before I would have my children around it AND he goes around other peoples children at a school where now my daughter is affected.

Seriously??? Why did you put your daughter in that potential situation? If you knew that his ex's children went to school with your daughter and was already starting issues, then WHY would you allow him to bring your daughter to a dance where you should have "assumed" there was going to be an issue considering there was previous issues.

I think you should take a bit of the blame here. Your fiance's ex may not be doing the right thing, but are you?? 

becuz the county decided thy were too lazy to pull up his marriage certificate.


What? 

I have a feeling this is the same girl that came on here before mentioning how her fiance was a sex offender but that he was innocent or something and it did not go very well on here.

I would not be on the UG airing out dirty laundry like this...And you would be shocked at the people that are sex offenders get away with...There is a sex offender that works on the base at the PX as a janitor! 

This is the topic it was on. 

Yup, I'm gonna stick my foot in it, but oh well.

Seems to me like there is a lot missing to this story, I'm not saying facts got intentionally left out, but it does not make sense.

my fiance was married to someone who was fifteen or sixteen when he was ninteen. He got convicted with a 261.5 which isnt even a registerable offense

Ok, but this seems strange if he was legally married to her.

So once a year he has to go to JT to register, take a pic and fingerprint. Everything a 290 wld,

Sorry,but it sounds like he is in the files as an offender, even if you did not find him online.

becuz the county decided thy were too lazy to pull up his marriage certificate.

Huh? If I was arrested and accused, I would be darn sure they confirmed my marital status, even if that meant hiring a lawyer.

the county is in the process of fixing and removing from his record.

How long ago was the marriage and conviction? And why is this taking so long? If he knew that he had a SERIOUS mistake on his record, he should be working non stop to get this fixed, and if the DA and county court are dragging their feet, a lawyer should have been involved a lot sooner.

These are just my musings, 2+2=4 is not happening here. 

BTW, a 261.5 can be a felony, and a registrable offense, depending on the circumstances. I could post the details here, but nothing is stopping kids from reading this forum, so you can just Google the info if you want to know.

So yes, he may "only" have a 261.5, but depending on the charges filed under that code, he is a sex offender. 

No he told them to pull his marriage certificate. There isnt anything missing, the county of SB screwed him over. And dug if he was a real sex offender the school wldnt allow him on the property. She personally told me there isnt a reason she can find that he isnt allowed on school properties. His ex wife has everyone looking at a site called open access which allows you to look at his court records. 

It does not matter that he told them, you are saying that they did not, so is there proof of negligence, or are you assuming?
I am not trying to attack you here, but this does not make sense. You say that he is not a real sex offender, yet he has to go through all the steps of a registered SA. The school may be saying he is not registered, but the court obviously has a very different view, and that is what matters. 

Ya ur telln me about the lawyer thing, SB county told him tho that he cldnt have it taken off his record til he was off of probation and parole. It took him eight years cuz he kept doin stupid s**t. Now thier pro longing it cuz u only have ten yrs total to sue. Thier buyn thier time. 

If you really cared about your child, you'd dump your fiance. Regardless of your thoughts, he was tried and convicted....they don't do this to innocent people....You need a reality check, and this should be it. Dump him, and move on...Save yourself and your family from future problems....If not, you'll get what you deserve.....IMO 

And if he has to fingerprint and everything a 290 would y wldnt thy put him on meagans law? Duh, thy really messed up. Could u imagine a lawsuit for wrongly puttn sumone on there? 

His own parole officer told me he shldnt have to do wht he has to do! 

Wait, wait, wait, he's on probation and was paroled.....I REST MY FRIGGIN CASE!!!! You deserve what you are getting, stop looking for a sympathy party...NOT GONNA HAPPEN!!!! 

I still dont want registered sex offender at my child's school, he DOES register yearly. After reading this, I am sure Oasis will have quite a few questions thrown at them over this. Just sayin

I understand registered sex offenders get away with things, however, if the school actually said, yes your fiance, whom is a registered sex offender, is more than welcome on our school grounds, that is a problem. If the legal system recognizes him as a registered sex offender, why wouldn't the school?? Oh because you said not too? I dont think so. 

His own parole officer told me he shldnt have to do wht he has to do!

Oh come on, not even an idiot is gonna believe that.....SERIOUS!!!