So, my husband came home from deployment and told me he wanted a divorce. I dont know what to do. How do I go about filing? Never been through something like this and am unsure where to start.
I mean its not something you expect after waiting patiently and faithfully for 7months. He said I can take whatever I want, he just wants me gone.
Any Advice? Please & Thank You. 

getting a Divorce Sucks, but so doesn't getting accused of stuff Day after Day. 

Im not sure how it works with the military but I do know.how to do one for ca if both.sides are.in agreement then its about six.months.till final but.pm me.and ill let.u know wat I know 

Thank you. I messaged you. 

I'm sorry to hear. Stay strong! 

Im trying. I have to stay strong for my kiddos. 

That is tragic, I am so sorry to hear that =( Know that you are every bit as amazing as ever and maybe start with base legal, JAG. Good luck! 

[i]That is tragic, I am so sorry to hear that =( Know that you are every bit as amazing as ever

Very true! 

He said I can take whatever I want, he just wants me gone.
Any Advice?

Take it all and then some if that is his attitude and you have 2 kids. 

Take it all and then some if that is his attitude and you have 2 kids.

I was just thinking this. Get some of his retirement, SBP, car payments, spousal support, child support, out of pocket medical expenses, 50% of school activities, rights to claim the children on your taxes every year and so on and so forth. Guess if you ask for all that you'll find out if he really meant take whatever you want. 

Take it all and then some if that is his attitude and you have 2 kids
HAHAHAHA AGREED!

Start by getting a child support order enforce. Then go to get a separation agreement. If you guys agree on everything, it shouldn't take that long. In some states you have to be legally separated for a certain amt of time. I paid $500 and the divorce was done! I got everything but the wicker furniture lol ;) 

Why would one even bring this situation onto the UG....Take your hind end to base legal and get the advice from folks who actually know the law, not here from a bunch of armchair lawyers.... 

Get some of his retirement, SBP, car payments, spousal support, child support, out of pocket medical expenses, 50% of school activities, rights to claim the children on your taxes every year and so on and so forth. Guess if you ask for all that you'll find out if he really meant take whatever you want.

ahahahah 

that's just plane wrong, we do not no all the facts, lets get both sides of the story before we start saying "get him for all he got". 

He has,agreed to everything I asked for, which isn't much. I don't want to take him for everything. I want to end things civil with the children we dont need fighting.
Thanks for the advice. 

No comment, don't believe in that ****... 

that's just plane wrong, we do not no all the facts, lets get both sides of the story before we start saying "get him for all he got".

No. Not if he is booting her AND the kids to the curb. That doesn't fly. 

He has,agreed to everything I asked for, which isn't much. I don't want to take him for everything. I want to end things civil with the children we dont need fighting.
Thanks for the advice. 

Agreed! Handle it Ina civilized way. It isn't time to seek revenge! 

No matter how civil you try to make it, it'll get really bad before it gets better. Sure he agrees to everything now, so did my ex, but when it actually came down to the nitty gritty, things got real ugly real quick. Document everything, get a good attorney and get everything in writing. 

Well hope it all works out for the both of you & the children, its got be hard on you, you are in my prayers, god bless 

That was very nice Roach. Divorce sucks you financially and emotionally even if it feels good to get away from them. Good luck and God Bless from me too. 

Thanks Everyone. Everything is in writing and notarized. I bought tickets for myself and the children to go home. So far so good. Of course I didnt ask for much just the kids toys and clothes, ect and my stuff. I appreciate the advice and kind words.
Its not going to be easy, but I have faith it will all work out. I have no choice but to be strong. 

Wow! So glad to hear that it all worked out fine. Yours is one of those rare divoces. Good luck to you!!!! 

Yours is one of those rare divoces. Good luck to you!!!!
Agree!! Its all about your children now :) 

WOW.....Just WOW!!!