my friend's Vietnamese wife does not like me [her first months in USA] and likely her thing or some how IF you guys know it is cultural as Vietnam peeps are farmers etc and have their ways supposedly ?? She told my friend she does not want me near her see..I know I did not do something to deserve it.I still would be nice to her but how maybe can I win her over? 

Well what happened that you think she doesn't like you? 

She told my friend she does not want me near her see
Did he say why she said that? All you can do is ask why she feels that way, and continue to be polite if you are around her. Sorry to hear that though 

Sometimes you are abit too aggressive in trying to be friendly, maybe she saw that in another way and felt fearful for herself.... 

Well what happened that you think she doesn't like you?
KEL n' all Well I was at a New Years's get together at a church on Adobe [wife of guy being Asian Buddhist] and we all are sitting at a table ..she had said [ not at me] recently after that I shouldnt be in her 'car' when Scott drove it and also Scott her husband saying she thought the people being black [there]were ugly; But I guess because she was not in the USA very long And it maybe that she's still learning English here.USA is newer to her.Maybe my personal mannerisms are kind of strange to her ways ? Of course I am just me lol.. Far as I know I'm not rude etc 

I am trying or pondering how to win her over so she at least is trusting of me; but will take it slow.. :) 

Was this the wife who told her husband you were flirting with her and now you can't get rides from them?? 

Was this the wife who told her husband you were flirting with her and now you can't get rides from them??
LL No, but she herself told my friend who disagrees with her that I am not liked .See he married her because in town a barbershop guy [likely owner of] told him of his pretty daughter back in Vietnam and when he went there and helped her family.. they fell in love. At first she did not mind me being around.one thing I heard from him is from her country ways she just does not forgive people for even minor ideas . 

Maybe next time don't start your first conversation with "me buy you drinky, you sake sake" or "5 dolla fo boom boom room" 

Sometimes ya just can't be everyones friend, forget about her.... 

If we told you all the secrets of our customs and culture, we'd have to silence you.... 

Sometimes ya just can't be everyones friend, forget about her
Thats the truth. And you shouldn't have to TRY to make someone like you. Thats not fair to you. They should either like you for who you are or not at all. Dont change who you are for anyone! 

If we told you all the secrets of our customs and culture, we'd have to silence you....
Doll I just do not want that to keep me from going to a church I wish to go to BUT I am confident this really will not happen; but other then that I will not bend over my back for if I am innocent . She possibly thinks I might be like a druggee guy and cause problems like this guy did to her; Her husband. I am a nice guy I won't go berserk on dope as the other guy did who hung around there.I know Far Eastern cultures believe in showing honor and I still am very morally okay and can be trusted to do right [never did wrong to other in taking advantage]..I am told she will not take nice gifts from me as a way to reconcile differences possibly. 

Maybe next time don't start your first conversation with "me buy you drinky, you sake sake" or "5 dolla fo boom boom room"
If you kind of mean I was lusting after an Asian body ;no I do not do that kind of thing [maybe you're being funny]. Maybe the Asian morality is different; but I do not do bad things is all I mean. Bottom line I cannot really only always please people but the Big Guy up in the sky. 

Sometimes ya just can't be everyones friend, forget about her....
As long as she does not hold back from me my ride to church in Yucca Valley.I can stay away from her ; But I want to attend that church badly. My friend her husband is my wheels.Sadly she thinks because I do not wear nice clothes I am a druggee berserk person[but maybe not that].The problem was I do not wear nice high fashion wares.But I won't dress in something I'd have to steal to afford. Anywhere I can free load expensive clothes there ?? lol 

Vietnamese

i'm VERY familiar in this category. ;-) 

Did he say why she said that? All you can do is ask why she feels that way, and continue to be polite if you are around her. Sorry to hear that though
She said it because I was not wearing a nice suit at a church event. I guess some people believe you have to publicly wear new looking top brand stuff today.I can see if when I can find nice stuff ;but my value humanly is not based on what I only wear.To me that's phony in a way.Just saying as I see it. Maybe I'm an idiot too. 

Maybe you should find a new church..

Don't be going to church all scruffy and not showered...It's not that hard to clean up and wear a nice pair of slacks and a shirt.

Sounds to me you focus too much on this broad and need to get better friends... IMO 

Don't be going to church all scruffy and not showered.

You can come to my church scruffy and not showered or smelling sweet and fancy dressed; doesn't matter. We are just happy to have you and that you get to learn about the Bible. A willing heart is much more important than anything on the outside. :)